When Did Oprah Get Married

Lots of people make a large deal about Valentine's Day. I don't—and haven't since I was a young contestant in the Miss Blackness America Pageant (I was Miss Black Tennessee). Many of the other girls were receiving flowers and gifts from their beaux. My boyfriend at the time, Bubba—aye, real name—sent me zippo. I felt bad almost that and complained to another contestant. She laid this wisdom on me: "Girl, if your homo has put a bloom on your mind, yous won't need no flowers in a vase!"

Fast-forwards more than a decade, to 1986. I had seen a particular human being around town, but he was e'er with the aforementioned girlfriend, so I didn't pay much attention. One day, though, we were both visiting a common friend who was ill and later died of AIDS. The guy with the girlfriend had come to the friend's home alone, and so had I. We left together, and I asked if he wanted to get a beer. (Yes, I drank a lot of beer and then and wore cowboy boots every solar day.) He said he didn't drink. (Notwithstanding doesn't—not i sip of nothin' alcoholic since I've known him.)

I thought he was nice enough, but I wasn't that impressed. He was polite, yes, and kind. The sort of guy who sits with an ailing friend. Tall and handsome, for certain. Just actually too handsome, I thought, to be interested in me.

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I figured he must be a histrion. And so did all my producers. They warned me non to go involved with that Stedman guy.

Aside from his appearance, they knew nothing well-nigh him. Only anybody that good-looking driving a vintage Mercedes merited suspicion.

So I proceeded with circumspection, even with a friendship. It wasn't until months subsequently, when I learned he'd broken upward with his girlfriend and had been inquiring most my dating condition, that I gave him a serious thought.

Anyone who'south ever met him is always amazed past what a genuine admirer he is. He's then positive. Wants the best for me and everyone he knows. Truly wishes people well. Doesn't curse. (I've been known to.) Never have I heard him gossip or say a negative thing well-nigh anyone. (I have, plenty of times.)

He'southward appropriately named because he'due south steady as a mount. Even-tempered, accountable, trustworthy, patient.

For years, there were hundred of tabloid stories, weekly, on whether we would marry. In 1993, the moment later I said yeah to his proposal, I had doubts. I realized I didn't actually want a marriage. I wanted to be asked. I wanted to know he felt I was worthy of being his missus, but I didn't want the sacrifices, the compromises, the day-in-twenty-four hour period-out delivery required to make a marriage work. My life with the testify was my priority, and we both knew it.

He's appropriately named because he's steady equally a mount. Even-tempered, accountable, trustworthy.

He and I agree that had we tied the marital knot, nosotros would not nonetheless exist together.

Our human relationship works because he created an identity beyond being "Oprah'south human being" (he teaches Identity Leadership around the world and has written multiple books on the discipline). And because we share all the values that matter (integrity existence number i). And considering we savour seeing the other fulfill and manifest their destiny and purpose.

Information technology's what Gary Zukav defines as a spiritual partnership: partnership between equals for the purpose of spiritual growth.

I know for certain it'due south the ultimate flower on my mind.

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